Por Noelia Farias
Quizás muchas mujeres se pregunten «¿por qué hay una tendencia a mostrar cuerpos después del parto?», «¿Cuál es el sentido de hacerlo?». Para algunas no hay nada de extraño en el cuerpo de una madre que acaba de parir, pero para otras compartir sus experiencias y mostrarse significa mucho más que exposición: significa sacar a luz nuestras imperfecciones, significa contarle al mundo que no todas somos iguales y que nuestros cuerpos después del parto cambian, algo totalmente normal.
Estas mujeres decidieron mostrar que lucir ojeras, cicatrices y estrías forma parte de la llegada del bebé, de la maternidad. Y lo hacen porque creen que es importante hacer visible su aspecto natural, sus fotos sin ningún tipo de retoque o filtros.
Y quizás lo hacen también para enseñar otra cara de esa realidad: hay mujeres que lucen orgullosas un cuerpo magnífico con su bebé recién nacido en brazos, pero también hay mujeres con cuerpos posparto que se alejan mucho de aquellas que pareciera que nunca han parido.
«Nunca he amado a mi cuerpo más que ahora»
Mornings with my babies are so beautiful. I wake up next to my little girl on the day we celebrate her 2 months of life here, earthside. She searches for milk and we lay there for a few moments in the quiet. Then I hear that big brother has woken up and is ready to start the day. He calls "mama" and I come down the hall to get him. As he barrels out of his bed and out of the room, he's full of excitement to see me and it warms my heart. Usually, we go down to get him some breakfast but instead, I brought him into bed with little sister and I. I enjoyed the morning snuggles with my children. When I got up with them to finally start the day, I saw myself in the mirror. The body I saw in the reflection used to make me cringe. To see my "flaws" and places I still needed to work on made me upset. I work out all the time and I would try to have this "perfect" idea of what I wanted my body to look like. This body was once home to both of these babies and it's still the body that makes them feel safe and loved. So, now I see this body as strong and beautiful. And if it takes awhile to get to where I want to be physically, at least I know that my children see me as their perfect mama. ❤️️ . . . . . #motherhood#motherhoodrising#teammotherly#takebackpostpartum#4thtrimesterbodiesproject#4thtrimester#4thtribodies#postpartumfitness#postbaby#postbabybody#mommyof2#strongmama#fitmom#fitmama#postpartumbody#postpartumjourney#fitpregnancy#birthwithoutfear#momlife#mommyhood#bodypositive#selflove#ig_motherhood#mindfulmamas#joyfulmamas#strongasamother#attachmentparenting#mynameismama#uniteinmotherhood#tribedemama
"Let's just be superficial for a minute alright? We all know having a baby changes so much more than your body, but it's been extremely hard for me to come to terms with just what pregnancy did to my body. I used to be pretty fit, I had my ups and downs with body image but overall I know I looked pretty good. Then came pregnancy and I was huge. I got HUGE towards the end extremely quickly. A mixture of extra amniotic fluid and Amelia being breech accounted for the extra large stomach. My stretch marks appeared overnight basically at around 32 weeks. I had a c section which has left my with a nice scar too. My stomach is soft and squishy from my super stretched skin and is covered in stretch marks. Linea nigra still clearly visible. Let's not even start on what's going on with my bellybutton (and yes it used to be pierced which probably was one of the stupidest things I did now that I look back on it lol). I had such unrealistic standards of what my body was going to look like after birth (yes probably because I'm way too into following all those super hot Instagram mums like Tammy Hembrow ?). But this is the reality for so many of us. And I'm okay with that. My body temporarily looking like this is a good price to pay for the sweet little angel I have sleeping next to me. 2017 I'll work to get back into shape, but it takes time. I have to remind myself to be nice to my body, I spent 9 months creating a life and yes it may never look like it used to but that's okay. But it's also okay to be sad about it." @krristelley _ #postpartum #postpartumbody #11weekspp #takebackpostpartum #postpartumbelly #pregnancy #birthwithoutfear
"Despite how difficult my postpartum was and sometimes still is, what I see more than anything when I look at my Hope wounds is a beautiful and loving Mama trying to do all she can to provide the greatest love and care for her miracles. I see a strong woman who not only fought and conquered infertility, but spoke up and ultimately didn't let postpartum anxiety and depression beat her. There is so much beauty in that when I look at my Hope wounds." @thefortintrio _ Celebrating my Scars. Link in her bio. _ #tripletmom #tigerstripes #postpartumbody #postpartumdepression #bebraveyou #motherhood #momlife #motherhoodsimplified #postpartum #mombod #hopewounds #birthwithoutfear #selflovegeneration #takebackpostpartum
Isn't there something amazing about a postpartum body? To think my body has carried two healthy pregnancies, totaling 82 weeks and 1 day of being pregnant. That's just incredible! Why would I ever hide my body, be ashamed of my body, or listen to society's standards about how I should look. I like to think I have a stretch mark to signify each beautiful kick I felt! My tummy also has scars from an ectopic pregnancy I experienced. Some would say it's unattractive, it's a bit fluffy and covered in marks, but it is mine!! I wish every woman would look at themselves in the mirror, look at what they believe their biggest flaw is and find beauty in it! Stop shaming yourself, stop shaming other women. Be proud, be honored to be a woman.
«¿No hay algo increíble en un cuerpo posparto?»
"Being a woman living the homestead lifestyle in the middle of nowhere can be isolating in itself, add single mom to the mix and that feeling runs deeper. It isn't always the physical distances that is the hard part but the mental isolation. It is pretty rare to find someone with common experiences to lean on. We spend mornings in the garden enjoying food in its freshest form. Eating eggs unwashed and still warm from the chicken. We drink water from the ground. We share and eat meat from our neighbors and drink raw milk. I reduce and reuse more than I recycle. My daughter was born at home without a midwife. Young and old saw the birth of my child, strengthening all the generations of the women present. Our work is caring for our elders. We cloth diaper. We use water instead of wipes and drink from the hose. We rarely wear clothes. We don't shower everyday. We barely use soaps, lotions or razors. We question modern medicine. We sleep in the same bed. We do our best not to have plastics, use less gas, electricity and water. We heat with wood. We barter. We preserve and store our surplus. We enjoy the warm sun on our bodies, nature in our ears and the dogs at our feet. All of these ways of living have gotten me my fair share of eye rolls, raised eyebrows, finger wags and shaken heads. I always wonder why. Isn't this the way we were designed to live? Aligned with mother nature not against her. I was called unconventional for having a home birth but isn't it the most traditional of things? There was a time which I felt bad for speaking up about my beliefs, my way of life. It made others feel bad and unsteady in their own lives. We weren't following societies guidelines and made to fear DES called. So sometimes it was just easier to sit in silence, keeping my experiences to myself. I do not see my belly as shameful nor any other part of my body. Or it's functions. My child loves that soft mound for sleeping, playing and cuddling. I love my large drooping breasting for my daughter loves them even more." The incredible Pineapple and her daughter Zoey Jean. I had the pleasure to photograph them on the homestead that Pineapple herself grew up on.
"I have never loved my body more than I do now. This mama bod is more beautiful than I could have ever expected. // It stretched and grew and gave this sweet bean everything she needed to thrive for 9 months, it was pushed to its max to welcome her into the world and now it feeds her with perfect nutrition, comforts her with its smell and has the perfect arms and hands to embrace her." @joyvictoriah #takebackpostpartum
"Why be ashamed? A life grew inside of you that gives humanity hope of change. You felt things that I as a man will never understand. Even when you first held your baby girl or boy it was nothing similar to when they lay in their father's hands. Your body changed and so did you. It became a look into the past of what you went through. You grew mentally and emotionally and your spirit was taken to places you didn't think it would ever go. Your breasts may sit differently. Your ass may not be as thick as it once was. But why should it be when you gave so much of yourself to help all of us. A sacrifice of sorts if you choose to see it that way. But to me your body now is exactly how it's supposed to be. So don't be ashamed. Don't hide your changes from the world that you and your sisters helped create. Be proud of your story. Be proud of your lines. Be proud of who you've chosen to be." @expressionsuntold___ _ Muse: @sereneradianceyoga Photo by @expressionsuntold___ #birthwithoutfear #dontforgetdads #takebackpostpartum
"I know some may be offended by this photo but you know what? I don't care. This to me is the tummy I now wear proudly as our beautiful daughter grew inside of me. I have a scar and many stretch marks to prove I carried her for 10 and a half months and brought her into this world. You know I had all these hopes and dreams about how I wanted to deliver Eden but when things don't go to plan it can change and for me it took a long time to accept this and be proud of how Eden was born. I had all those feelings of guilt and even worse when I then couldn't fulfill my dream of breast feeding my daughter. But now 9 months later I'm finally accepting and moving on because I have this perfect little girl however she was brought into this world she is here and she is safe and I am also okay. Even though I will never have a nice flat tummy again or wear a bikini at the beach again I don't care I AM A MUM AND I AM PROUD OF MYSELF and I always will be. I don't have one of those lovely birth stories but I'll still tell it proudly to anyone who asks." ? @calissabree _ #birthwithoutfear #takebackpostpartum
Estas mujeres compartieron imágenes no sólo de sus cuerpos, sino también de sus vidas como madres. Y no significa que estén expresando que sólo existe un cuerpo real posparto, sino que existen diversos cuerpos, y creo que este es el gran mensaje que nos dejan: todas somos distintas y nuestros cuerpos no quedan de la misma manera después de parir.
Mostrar sobre todo la diversidad desde distintas perspectivas, hay mujeres que pareciera que nunca hubieran parido y hay mujeres que lucen orgullosas las huellas de su embarazo. Y lo bueno de todo estos es mostrarlas a todas.